Believe in
Yourself, No Matter the Opposition
We all grow up
hearing THOSE voices; you know the ones, the voices that say things like,
“Who do you think you are?”
“What are you
thinking even trying to do that?”
“You have failed
so many times in the past, why do you think you can do it now?”
“Why would anyone
listen you?” “Nobody is going to be interested in what you are trying
to do.”
Trust me, been
there, heard that. And we end up hearing the voices for so long that we end up
becoming conditioned to them so much so that our own inner voice begins to
repeat the outside voices.
“You don’t
deserve to be successful.”
“How is anyone
going to want what you have to offer? You’re not a professional.”
Obviously, I know
the voices all too well. The voices aren’t just against you; get the picture?
I don’t need to keep going. These voices continually playing and
replaying over and over in your mind are destroyers of dreams and can snuff out
ambition, self-worth and success faster than anything. I know, remember I
have heard these same voices for years and also because others that I have
worked with have told me similar stories. Some of these voices I still have to
make a conscious effort to ignore.
The most important
thing is to remember that it’s all about your perspective. If you find
yourself with a gift, a talent, an inspiration or idea that is placed in your
heart to share with the world then who are you not to share it? Who are you to
allow some echoes from your past to stop that dream from coming to pass?
When you reach that
moment of clarity, the point in which you know you have something to share then
that is when you have to make a decision to let the voices, that we have already
established are going to be there, control your thoughts and thereby control
your actions, or conclude that you are going to share your dream, your talent,
your idea in spite of the negative voices coming in from every direction.
After a while of
just ignoring the negative input, it starts to take on an almost comical role
that inspires you to continue and you come to understand that you are qualified;
that you are valuable; that you are helping those people that your contribution
is meant for and you are effective.
If you have a
calling to write a book, or become a mentor, counselor or coach, then you must
accept that you are qualified no matter what the naysayers may tell you.
It is you, your desire to achieve your goal, to reach your dreams and your own
journey of self-discovery that will make a difference to others. Not some
external standard of what someone else’s will lead you to fulfilling your
calling and NOT what the voices say.
Allow yourself to
see that you are qualified, you are valuable and you are worthy. You can and you
will do it. When you find those voices trying to take over, step away from the
situation. If it is a voice from someone now, walk away. Explain that you have
heard their opinion and respect their right to have one, but you disagree and
will not accept the negative input and then remove yourself from that situation.
Every successful person that I have had dealings with have stated that one of
the first things you need to do is weed out the negative influences in your life
and replace them with good influences.
Now, saying that, I
realize that there are some influences in your life that you just can’t walk
away from, but you can adjust how much of an influence they are, by taking more
control of the conversations and the amount of time that you spend with them.
Realize that you are the one that sets the path that you take, not them and just
because your direction isn’t the one that they would have taken, doesn’t
mean that you are on the wrong path, you are just not on their path.
For the inner voices, reflect on
where they are coming from. You will find that most are voices from the past
that have influenced you. Just like the present voices, CHOOSE not to listen to
them. Every time they start to repeat, actively work on replacing the negative
output with positive input.
As the saying goes,
“garbage in, garbage out” so by getting self motivational CDs, reading
self-help material, surrounding yourself with people who affirm who you are, you
can record over these voices from the past.
Now for your own
voice; too often we are our own worst critics and so many times we don’t take
the first step, or we quit half way through because we start doubting ourselves.
This is where faith
comes in. We must know that what we
can perceive, we can achieve. All we need to do is not let our own negative
programming from past situations, relationships, and failures stop us.
Failure is only
failure if you choose to not get back up after a fall. If something doesn’t
work the way you feel it should have, take on Albert Edison’s perspective;
it’s not failure, you just discovered one more way that doesn’t work.
You are unique, you
are wonderful and you can achieve anything that you put your mind to if you just
refuse to let the voices stop you.
Power Question:
If you do not make changes to your current situation, what would the cost be for doing nothing?
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