Stress-free living is not
totally unattainable. As discussed in a previous article, some stress is good.
In this article I am speaking about the bad stressors and I’ll give you some
tips on how you how you can emotionally de-clutter your life and magnetically
pull the things you want closer. So lets get started.
1) Accept the problem
You have to accept the
situation to fully acknowledge it, you have to accept yourself where you are, no
matter what - you cannot solve any problem without first accepting it, and
yourself. We spend so much of our time trying to deny what it is that is causing
us the stress, pushing it away, which only leads to more of the problem
appearing in our lives. Very often simply acknowledging the stressor and
accepting that we had a part to play in that stressor coming into our life is
enough to see it for what it is, a situation that can be solved.
2) Appreciate the Stressor
I know, it sounds weird,
but after acknowledging the stressor and seeing it for what it truly is, you can
learn to appreciate the situation. Life is about learning. When you see the
stressor for what it is worth, you start working out a way to eliminate that
stress from your life. One of the fastest ways to attract harmony into your life
is by learning to appreciate the good in whatever situation it is that life is
presenting you with. Appreciation is the antidote to some of the lowest forms of
emotions we are capable of e.g. shame, resentment, etc. By offering thanks to
God for the lessons learned, you immediately begin to attract more of it towards
you. Also, by appreciating the stressors, you don’t allow negativity about the
stressors to depress you.
3) Happiness in the
Struggle
The experience of working
through a stressful situation brings joy when you overcome the situation. Why
not start feeling that before the stressful situation is taken care of. Take on
the attitude that you know the situation is almost over. Take pride in the small
victories that get you closer to eliminating the stressors in your life. Focus
your life on having more now-moment pleasure experiences, rather than
accumulating reasons or things to be happy about. Life on this planet is short
enough without wasting time worrying about future outcomes when it is just as
easy to appreciate where you are now. No matter how many stress factors are in
your life, there are always more that you could be having, always someone worse
off than you, and always a way out of the situation that you are in, so be happy
in knowing you are in a place to accomplish much.
4) Stay connected to God
Find your own personal way
to stay connected to Jesus. For
many, this is prayer, music, song, etc. Get back to nature, memorize a verse a
day, whatever it takes to keep you connected to the source of your salvation.
Burn out happens way too often, because we give and give and give, while not
allowing ourselves the opportunity to just be fed. The Lord of Peace gives us
what we need to work through any stress factors that we have. Through Him we
have awareness that we are part of a much greater purpose, something else,
something higher than ourselves that makes our current circumstances trivial by
comparison. Notice that the concepts are so connected even on a linguistic
level. People are attracted to God because we recognize that’s where we want
to be, we want to have those feelings, we want to experience that energy,
because the energy, just by being in His presence, makes us feel better about
ourselves.
5) Live in the moment
We only have access to our
full personal power in the present moment. The extent, to which you are
connecting, on some unconscious level, either into the past or into the future,
is the extent to which you rob yourself of your present power. You are not going
to be experiencing what it is that God wants for you; therefore you are moving
your emotional point of attraction, into negative territory. Being in the
present moment is the only way you can make an emotional connection to what it
is that will get you past your current stressor. This type of emotional
alignment cannot be achieved when your thoughts are in the future or past.
Living with your thoughts at a future or past moment in time (a.k.a worrying too
much on the past or the future), is entirely redundant in the process of being
free of stress.
6) You can never be enough
You can never be sorry
enough to change the situation. You can never give enough to make up for the
past; you can never sock away enough to really secure your future. It is only
when you allow yourself to give it over to God that you can see the present for
what it is, a gift. It is only when you are allowing the yourself to see current
stressors for what they really are, that you have the ability to gift it to
others. Help others see stress for what it is. When your cup is not already
brimming over, it is the fastest route to the emotional poorhouse. Others easily
see through empty gestures, compliments, or favors; and, such gestures only
blind you from your own emotional misinterpretations of your own stress. They
are not useful, and serve no purpose in enhancing your life or others’.
7) Be selfish enough to
line up with your intentions
This is important because
it is only in your thriving that you have anything to offer others. If your own
energy tank is not full, you have no business looking after the tanks of others.
It is important to limit your own responsibilities to prevent emotions draining
of self-worth etc. Remain present and in attendance to your own needs first and
you will always give others your best, automatically.
8) You are not your
accomplishments
Understand that you are not
your accomplishments, what you do, what you don’t do, your beliefs, your
ideas, your stuff or possessions, those are nothing to do with who you really
are, they are the baggage you have picked up along the way, so stop placing so
much worry in these things. They are nothing to do with the spiritual you who
wants to feel good; and stay connected to Peace. Lose your ego, and take this
attitude of freedom with you in your everyday life.
9) The journey is the
destination
Many times our internal
dialogue says “If only I had x, then I would be happy, or, “I’ll be happy
when I’ve got…” As you go into the world and experience the contrast of
your likes vs. your dislikes, through your everyday experiences, so a new want
is born. Being able to see stress in the here and now makes you realize that the
journey is the destination. Each day is another opportunity to walk with God and
let Him help handle your stress. So enjoy the journey and don’t stress on the
destination because we already know where we are going.
Bringing it all together
So how do we overcome the
various stress blocks to pull greater peace and abundance towards us? Live in
the present and take stress one day at a time, never give them more power than
they really have.
If you have gotten anything
from this series on stress or have anything to add, I would love to hear from
you.
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